'My in-laws are not permitting me to stay with my sister and look after her who had recently met with an accident' - recently my friend told me and she was damn upset, eyes brimming with tears, about the whole incident. I really don't know how to console her and whose side I have to take. I just told her "If they dodn't want you to go at this moment, all I can say is you please don't go. Because there are others to look after your sister right now but don't make a dent in your marriage in this regard. Also don't create a scene or showdown. Just try to mend the fears and differences or wrong notions your in-laws have at this moment. They would realise that they had been unreasonable in the passage of time". Looking from the very outset, her anger / outburst is well justified. She was recently married only for four months. Whatever happened at this moment is so unfortunate but one has to cross the bridge when it comes.In-Laws
'My in-laws are not permitting me to stay with my sister and look after her who had recently met with an accident' - recently my friend told me and she was damn upset, eyes brimming with tears, about the whole incident. I really don't know how to console her and whose side I have to take. I just told her "If they dodn't want you to go at this moment, all I can say is you please don't go. Because there are others to look after your sister right now but don't make a dent in your marriage in this regard. Also don't create a scene or showdown. Just try to mend the fears and differences or wrong notions your in-laws have at this moment. They would realise that they had been unreasonable in the passage of time". Looking from the very outset, her anger / outburst is well justified. She was recently married only for four months. Whatever happened at this moment is so unfortunate but one has to cross the bridge when it comes.
February 9, 2008. I never expected that this day could bring a series of meeting 'long lost' friends. Also there were some interesting observations, that passage of time seldom brings changes in the friendships. I met with Mohanasundaram who was my close friend, for whom I had an obsession when I was in Engineering College. That same evening I caught up with Gurumoorthy, who was my close friend in my Masters - a planned event. One week back I saw Preetha who had finally moved to Chennai after a globe trotting. I, Preetha, Guru were the known trio of our batch in PSGIM, Coimbatore. The occassion was the marriage of Guru's sister's marriage, who was also like an extended family to me and Preetha. I missed Guru's marriage itself, so I didn't want to miss this marriage.
When the children grow they are like dogs, they are happy with the touch, hugs and kisses, excited to have the masters (parents) around. Their whole activity is centered the parents. When they enter the teens, they become cats. the prefer to stay aloof, suspicious of everybody, harbour secrets. The more you try to reach them, more they become wild. Around 20-22 years they come back as dogs, altogether a new individual, making you surprised whether this is the same kids.
'enga annan paasakaara paiyanaayittan mama' exulted ammu when I went to Coimbatore recently. she was clearly excited following the acknolwedgement from her brother. I felt happy for the girl who gave me sleepless nights when she wrote me that she wanted to commit suicide because of her family's indifference to her. She is a perfect case study for the 'rise of a rebel'. She is a sweet and simple girl, whose simplicity was miconstrued and ridiculed as 'insanely innocent', looked out longer for acknowlegement and recognition, Atlast she stopped looking out and started holding her feelings with herself, much rebelling in the exterior. No the subject of this article is not her, but the sudden 'U' turn in the relationship between the siblings.
When you had been asked to prove your relationship with your partner who can be either friend or fiancee or even spouse, whom you are absolutely comfortable / crazy with? What was your reaction such demand? I can surely claim that such demand must have validated the widening gap instead of cementing the relationship. Ofcourse we feel hurt by the people who matters us the most rather than some non committal relationships. But demanding the proof of the relationship is something extreme and even breaking point in many relationships, no matter how much intense the love is.
Sometimes we can't say why things happen? Normally I go back to my seat after the lunch and check mails or browse. But today I chose to go down to the lawn and sit for a while. Why did it happen? What would have happened if I had came and left early or later? I saw somebody familiar and when I realised him I just said "Dai! Inga Vaada..". It happened to be Anand, my close friend in +2. I am seeing him after a gap of 5+ years. It was not just an accidental meeting of long lost friends, but a reinforcement in the belief of love, affection and relationship. If Gowshi's mail and Praveen's meeting had mellowed by tough stand against relationships, Anand's meeting proved my theory of relationship - "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it is yours else it was never meant to be..". After certain incidents I believed that relationships are momentary, not to be taken seriously.