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AnandhakrishnanSometimes we can't say why things happen? Normally I go back to my seat after the lunch and check mails or browse. But today I chose to go down to the lawn and sit for a while. Why did it happen? What would have happened if I had came and left early or later? I saw somebody familiar and when I realised him I just said "Dai! Inga Vaada..". It happened to be Anand, my close friend in +2. I am seeing him after a gap of 5+ years. It was not just an accidental meeting of long lost friends, but a reinforcement in the belief of love, affection and relationship. If Gowshi's mail and Praveen's meeting had mellowed by tough stand against relationships, Anand's meeting proved my theory of relationship - "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it is yours else it was never meant to be..". After certain incidents I believed that relationships are momentary, not to be taken seriously.

 

If you come to the fourth floor and take your right after alighting from lift, you'll come to my office. Had you taken your left from the lift, you reach Anand's work place. Surprisingly we didn't meet for past 6 months despite being few foot away. May be we are destined to meet so. Today Anand is a typical 'kudumba ishthiri' blessed with a baby girl and I am happy for him.
 
Anand... One of the sweet souls I had ever come across in my life, the person who taught me to love unconditionally, the catalyst who increased the 'obsession' levels in my psychological composition, but we were out of touch due to our search for money and materials in life. While we were in school, during +1 we got closer, so close that we always hand our hands locked. When I look back, I was so immature and we cried a lot, made others shed tears and had I been bit sensible, we must have helped other academically. But despite all the problems, Anand never changed his affection towards me. May be I had imbibed that trait of loving unconditionally from him. After our schooling, I opted for Engineering and he went to do BSc (Computers). Those days only letters were the means of staying in touch.
I met Anand again when he was planning to do MCA and we couldn't stay in touch either. He sent an invitation for his marriage but at that situation I couldn't attend it. I left for Gulf and he moved to Chennai around the same time. Thats it. Whenever I get emotional about some relationship, I take Anand as reference and though "We were closer when we were together but now I don't know whether we'll meet again. Thats relationship - a momentary one. So why bank on it?". Slowly slowly I started believing on non-committal stand and live for the moment.
Gowshaliya Ganesan - now Mrs. Gowshaliya Dinesh, was my collegemate in PSGIM. She hailed from Sri Lanka and was a very simple girl. Among all the girls, I felt closer to Gowshaliya, Preetha and Srimathi. Gowshaliya & Srimathi were PG Diploma candidates, so they moved after an year, whereas Preetha was my classmate and sitting in the next seat. I still treasure the farewell card signed by Gowshaliya and Srimathi. I lost her email id and whenever I remember her I used to search in Yahoo! People search and similiar search engines, but nothing came up. Slowly Gowshi relegated to just memories. All of a sudden I got her mail-id through Savithri in Orkut and mailed her. No reply for a month. Just consoled myself that she might have forgot me.

One fine day she mailed saying that she was in Sri Lanka for a month so didn't see my mail. Going through the mail, I felt proud about my friend Gowshi. The simple skeleton girl have become much wiser. I was amazed by her kid's name - Venthan. She explained that she wanted a 'pure' Tamil name, not something of Sanskrit. I felt very proud that she didn't forget Tamil even after she is in USA, unlike some girls who say with a pride that "I-dont-know-Tamil". When I had written about my apprehensions about marriage, she beautifully yet logically explained how marriage brought bliss in her life. Eventually I slowly started shedding my apprehensions towards marriage. I don't know whether I will meet Gowshi again and when, but when the friendship existed, it was beautiful. Her mails brought some changes in me.

Praveen Joseph, my close friend right now, is my collegemate with whom I have rarely interacted. But Praveen kept sending me the mails about my blogs and it was solely his efforts that had blossomed to a friendship right now. It was he who kept sending comments while I took sometime to recollect how Praveen look like, it was he who dropped in personally to meet me in my office and all I did was just reciprocation. Admitted I make him grate his nerves, but I always feel good about him.
 
These three friends, their re-entry in my life after a long time, have now made me believe that relationships are for forever. Today I have changed my stand towards the relationships. If our feelings towards somebody is true and sincere, provided if it is destined for us, we'll definitely get them back in our life at some point of time. Ofcourse everyone have their life and routines, so we can't expect to stick with them all the time. So why to fake the relationship or take a non-committal stand? Somebody somewhere is made for you... This statement is not only for lovers but for all off those who believe in people, relationships etc.

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